a day in this household...

me: rowan that's a fish tank not shoe.
rowan: no!
me: wah wah wah (sometimes i feel like all she hears in that charlie brown noise)
rowan: no!
me: can we clean your room?
rowan: no! (screeeeeeeeeaaaaaaam)

it took over two hours and a ton of fighting, but for today the room is clean...

does anyone have an suggestions on how to get (the most terrible) two year old to clean a room? or to listen? or to expand her vocabulary beyond 'no'? this tired mama of three is opening up the forum for suggestions.
*and, seriously...the other day the small white rubbery piece and it's back ups to my breast pump went missing last week-well i found them in the girls bed. some half chewed. now isn't that lovely...