Thursday, May 5, 2011

a mama's anxious heart.

tomorrow at 10:35a we check in at children's hospital for stella to have surgery to have tubes put in. at midnight the night before she has to stop eating everything aside from water and clear pedialyte; how am i suppose to tell my non-understanding one year old she can't eat breakfast?
my heart is anxious to all hell. please don't tell me to suck it up...that it isn't a big deal. could you imagine having to watch your tiny child be put under anesthesia?
here is where i ask for your prayers for stella to make it through with flying colors, that it is successful, and rids her of her horrible ear problems. also, for tim and i to see clearly and feel relaxed about the procedure so that we can be one-hundred percent present for our little lady tomorrow.
i would love to hear from you if you have had a child go through this recently. things that might surprise me that i should be prepared for? whether your little one did good/bad? i heard when they come out of anesthesia they are a little wild/possessed, what is your experience? we're you able to go in and watch when they went under or did you chose to wait outside? i am a planner that likes to know details-so anything helps!
so, tomorrow at 10:35a be thinking and praying for your favorite hi, baby baby. it would be greatly appreciated by this bloggy family!

14 comments:

melissa rohr said...

i have only had to go through this with one of my children. i won't say anything that will scare you, but in all honesty, it really isn't that bad. i don't like unnatural behavior (not like being around someone with special needs, more like someone on drugs or heavy alcohol) so being around my daughter before and after was a little unnerving. kinda made me sick to my stomach due to high anxiety from worry and just the uncomfortable feeling from her behavior when the meds. were administered. that's just how i respond to things though. i totally think the worst of things in every situation, but she was fine and back to herself within a few hours after the procedure. oh, and the procedure is very quick. less than 30 minutes is what i recall.

melissa rohr said...

Our oldest daughter had tubes put in when she was a year and a half old and I totally empathize with what you are feeling right now! Even though it is considered a minor surgery and it lasts a very short time, it is still nerve racking as parents to have to hand our children over and trust someone else to take care of them. That being said, she did GREAT both times. We stayed with her in the holding area and then waited outside while the surgery was happening. We chose not to go in because I think it would have made it worse on us to see her in that sterile environment. I am a nurse, but that doesn't make it any easier on me to see my child as the patient. They typically give children an oral dose of Versed before the surgery while you are in holding. This makes them a little loopy but totally relaxed, she didn't even cry when they took her from us. The entire procedure, from the time they took her back to the time they brought us to her in recovery, lasted only 30 minutes! She was a bit fussy afterward but we just held her and rocked her and she went right back to sleep. Once we got home, she was literally running around the house within the hour. Children are so resilient and recover like champs! And the best part: she didn't get sick anymore. Ever. No more ear infections! So feel good, Mama, this will help her so much and it will be over in no time! Have some Popsicles on hand at home for when you come home and some Tylenol in case she spikes a temp (which they sometimes do). Good luck and sending lots of prayers your way!

melissa rohr said...

Melissa my 2 oldest boys have had tubes in and Gavin had his tonsils and adnoids out as well. I will say that the worst is when they come back because when they wake up they dont know what to think and they are feeling weird from the anesthesia. She will probably not seem like your child at all, but it only lasts a little while and they let me crawl up in bed with them and hold them, really whatever I wanted to do to comfort them they were fine with. I dont tell you this to scare you but I do wish that someone would have shot straight with me instead of sugar coating it about when they come out. When they go in she should get some anti-anxiety meds to help her with the separation, she probably will not even know that she is leaving you. I could walk with them to the OR door but then had to kiss good bye and put my babies in the Dr. hands. I am sure that everything will go just great and she will come out of this doing just awesome!!! I never regret doing it for either of my boys, it has been a true life saver!!! Good luck and I will keep you guys in my prayers :)

melissa rohr said...

My middle daughter has been through surgery twice, although neither one was for ear tubes. One more extreme, open heart surgery. Another to drain a sore she got due to contracting MRSA. That was obviously an easier experience. She woke up groggy and really thirsty, but it wasn't too long after that she was back to herself. In our situation it was a lot scarier for me than it was for her.

melissa rohr said...

i am seriously on the fence-i might just have tim go in with her before. i think i can do better for her when she comes out if i don't have to watch her go under too :(

melissa rohr said...

thanks jamie that is exactly what i wanted to hear, of course none of the nurses mentioned that she might be out of character after so i am glad i know and won't be surprised. luckily stella is so social and i am sure she won't have anxiety about leaving us or the anesthesia mask (knocks on wood). i will keep everyone posted, i think i am the most not looking forward to denying her food! i wish the surgery was earlier.

melissa rohr said...

oh, man! i hope your daughter is well now! thank you for sharing :)

melissa rohr said...

thanks for sharing! i think they even said it was only about 10-15 minutes so even better. this info is all super helpful.

melissa rohr said...

Yes it will be very hard, Addison had to have surgery at 6 months old and it was so hard to have her wheeled away from me, even though they had her so loopy by then that she was pretty much out. If I had not had my mother there to literally pick me up off the floor I would not have made it through the 2 hours that she was gone. You will make it through but it will be very hard. I am praying for all of you.

melissa rohr said...

Awww thinking of you guys! My brothers got tubes put in when they were babies...AND got tonsils/adenoids out at the same time. They did just fine and it helped so much with sickness! Good luck little girlie! The dudes will send some happy thoughts your way :)

melissa rohr said...

I haven't had to go through this exactly yet, but I do understand how terrible it is to worry about your child. Bennett did spend an evening in the NICU right after he was born. We had to have scans done to find out if he had any internal bleeding in his brain. YIKES! All I know is that I was so anxious and nervous to get the results. All turned out well, but it doesn't take away the fear. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers!! I'm sure she'll make it through with flying colors. And

melissa rohr said...

Oh, stelly poo. She'll do great!

melissa rohr said...

Sending my prayers! A friend of mine just went through this with her baby, he also got his adenoids out at the same time. Everything went well, and he is hearing a lot better now!

melissa rohr said...

will for sure be thinking of you and the fam tomorrow. it is a huge deal and super scary but im sure everything will be okay! you are in GREAT hands with childrens hospital! hang in there mama!