Tuesday, May 22, 2012

enough already.

i am about to get all ranty mcranterson on you, but this topic always has me really fired up.

with the constant overflow of information on extended breastfeeding being thrown at us in response to the TIME cover, i am over it. here is a nugget of truth for you: zoe was 100% formula fed due to circumstances i could not control, and she is off the charts intelligent and a member of the advanced programs at her school; she is nurturing, loving, and gentle; she is creative (so creative!) and wise; she is athletic and charismatic; HEALTHY and a happy kid - so please, recognize this, not breastfeeding can be great too.

don't misunderstand me here - i am a major supporter of breastfeeding, exclusively breastfed my other children and plan on trying for extended periods with this new baby. i am such a supporter and advocate that i am currently looking into making my career central around breastfeeding and already lend my experience and tips where i can. but...and this is a big but, i am over being made to feel like i didn't do enough for zoe or that i robbed her future of something by not breastfeeding her, because i didn't.

so, in the words of mandy, "lets just feed them, shall we?"

8 comments:

melissa rohr said...

that is so funny! rowan was the exact same way and we struggled for months before i had to result to pumping and giving her bottles. she came out of the womb drinking 4oz!

melissa rohr said...

seriously! i think in the blogging world it is even harder to escape the criticism and side yes on bf'ing - so annoying!

melissa rohr said...

Fucking amen. And to top it off, WHY can't we all as mothers just SUPPORT one another? 

melissa rohr said...

I couldn't agree more. Breastfeeding is not for everyone. It doesn't work for everyone. I busted my butt to try to breastfeed both of my girls and it was a nightmare both times. It made me incredibly sick. I spent months in bed and couldn't even be their mama because I wasn't healthy enough. With our third baby? I'm not even going to attempt it. And I know that that baby will be just as happy and healthy as my first two :) 

melissa rohr said...

You go girl!! I breastfed both of my girls till they were 9 months old, Im not one of those crazy moms who freaks out if someone is not exclusivly breastfeeding their child. Some of the smartest and most successful people I know never had an ounce of breast milk.

melissa rohr said...

Being adopted I was never breastfed and my brother is the same. I also wanted to breastfeed Zane but I just never produced enough milk for him because he was an eater from the start eating twice as much as most newborns so I had to stop around 6 weeks and I supplemented the entire time with him... he is amazingly smart and healthy and happy. So in my opinion we all turn out ok whether we've been breastfed or bottle fed!! I think there are benefits to both I think. How does anyone know for sure what is exactly right for every single person on the planet? Everyone is different... and I've chosen not to feel guilty that I couldn't breastfeed him until he was a year like I had hoped. 

melissa rohr said...

Amen to this!! I breastfed Bennett until he was 11 months. But when he was around 5 months old, he went on a nursing strike (I still have no idea why!) for about 2 weeks. And stupid me, I didn't have a pump. So in this time... my supply went down substantially and we had to supplement with formula. After he finally started taking the boob again (I can't believe I still even tried after two weeks), I could never get my supply back to where it was. I took fenugreek which helped a little. Anyway, I still BF him about 50% of the time until he was 11 months. I felt totally guilty for having to supplement, but looking back. Why did I feel guilty?? I was giving him what he needed, food. That's what mattered.

This time around, Easton is EBF and he's doing great. I got smarter and bought a pump so that if he decided to strike like Bennett did, I would be prepared. However, if for any reason I need to give him formula... EH. It's fine. As long as he's healthy!

melissa rohr said...

Hey Melissa! Just started following your blog!!


AMEN to your post. Seriously. Breastfeeding didn't work out for my son (can you say screaming bloody murder the second he was even remotely sideways?!) I am all FOR breastfeeding (if it works out!) but really, seriously, it would be nice not to feel like some horrible mother for going with formula. I remember the first time we gave him a bottle  made with formula. I felt soo incredibly guilty, and terrible, to even be considering it. But, he's four years old now, doing amazing and what did we lose from it?! Nothing! Actually we gained some precious hours of sleep years ago!  That's what! Ahh thank you for posting!!