Friday, April 18, 2014

OUR NEW BEHAVIOR AND ACCOUNTABILITY CHART

The summer bug has the bitten the kids a little early this year and taking a toll on their behaviors. Tons of whining, complaining, bickering and being bored. It has been especially tough still trying to acclimate to me working again and the hectic schedule that brings so we're all a little on edge and grouchy. Things have to change!

After a quick search on Pinterest I immediately found a behavior chart that was really appealing on Oh My Gluesticks. It looked easy to follow for all three girls (10, 6, and 4 y/o) and it was super easy to make. I used color scraps around the house and picked up a $3 foam core board from Target. You can do whatever you want for the clips but I used clothespins, round wood coins, and letter stickers. I still need to hang it with ribbon but I made it with the idea of it being mobile in mind.

Rowan responded really well to the marble jar system last time we did it so I was excited how visual this new system was with a little marble jar action on the side. A chance to be accountable throughout the day with a big prize at the end of a couple of weeks (hopefully). However this time we're choosing to do special time rewards like ice cream dates and late bed time versus a toy. We started this on Monday and can't wait to report  on the results!

Here is how it works…
  • Each day everyone starts out on "good job" for a clean slate.
  • Kiddo moves up one space for each good deed or moment.
  • Each time they hit "awesome" they get 1 marble in the jar.
  • Any bad choice immediately jumps down to "oops" for a first warning.
  • Violence gets an automatic 5 minute timeout.
  • They have to earn their way back out of warning and consequence area with good moments.
  • Lose of privileges can include - screen time, play dates, a toy, etc.
  • If a privilege is lost before 3pm it is lost for the day. If it is lost after 3pm it is lost for the next day as well.
  • They don't have to repeat consequences on the way up, it's just the concept of learning to be conscious of their behavior and earn their way back up.
  • If kiddo is in any green space at the end of the day they get 5 additional marble in the jar.
  • When their jar is full they get their pre-choosen prize. Ice cream date, more screen time, late bed time, etc.
  • Example of "good" moments: Doing whats asked right away, completing self care without asking, being punctual when getting ready to leave, helping without asking, being tidy without being asked, or being extra kind to someone.
  • Examples of poor choice moments: Whining, violence, not listening, not cleaning up after themselves, and saying mean things to one another.

We are also trying out screen time bucks (printable in link) - I'll report more on that later but for now we are going with a strict no screen time Monday and 1.5 hours a day for the rest of the week with possible exceptions weekend evenings. With Zoe I plan to pay out her full weeks allowance of screen bucks Tuesday and let her budget her time as she sees fit. I think it will be a great learning experience for all of them in different ways and hallelujah to no more brawls over the iPad.

I got a ton of positive response when I posted a picture of our chart on Instagram. I would love to hear if you try this out and if you make any changes to adapt to your family's needs! Of course what works for one kid might not for the other but we're all in the crazy race together and can use all the help we can get!
xoxo melissa

1 comments:

melissa rohr said...

This sounds wonderful! I think I'll try it with my kiddos! :)